Acting as though hitting on you is some kind of affront to you and all that is good and decent in the world is both rather silly (it's a gay bar - getting hit on is part of what happens there) and counterproductive in the long run.ĭ) If you hit on someone and they're not interested - accept their rejection with good humor and move on. Politeness costs you little or nothing and can earn you points with others in the bar who you might be more interested in or who might be friends with someone you are interested in. Instead, check out several different kinds and see if another one is more the combination of atmosphere and crowd that appeals to you.Ĭ) If somebody hits on you and you're not interested - be polite about turning them down. If you go to a particular type of bar and it's not to your taste, don't figure that all bars are that way and give up on them. Regular old bar bars with pool tables, dart boards, and serious leagues for both These might include (but are probably not limited too): In a place as large as Chicago, you can probably find almost every kind of bar, I imagine. Instead, look for an events calendar (if you see something that sounds interesting, you could go) or maybe pictures from an event in the bar (some places will post em on their websites).ī) Gay bars come in lots of different styles - the trick is to find the one that works for you. Don't pay much attention to the promotional images on the website of muscular men wearing next to nothing - that may have nothing whatsoever to do with how the bar actually is. Well, it's been a while since I was spending any amount of time in gay bars, but I doubt they've changed all that much.various thoughts and comments:Ī) A lot of bars have websites these days - you can probably find a list of gay bars in Chicago online and then find their individual websites from there. Thanks guys and gals! Btw i live in chicago and wanna go to boystown so if u know the neighborhood,hit me up with advice! And for bonus points, u can pray to the gay gods to make my friend hook up with me in said bar lol Or maybe some stories of your first time at a gay bar. Anyone with any advice would be much appreciated. I do really wanna go to a gay bar with him but i dont know which to go to and what to expect. And im still closeted! So he said hed go to a gay bar with me whenever id wanna go. Today i was texting my best friend who i came out to first and we kinda started argueing via text and that went on for a while, he really got to me and i was pretty depressed but we made up and towards the end of the convo, i told him how i was so depressed because i dont have a bf, or even a fwb. but thats not why writting this, ill get to the point. although i did come out to another person, doubling my total to 2 people! Lol. Havent been on here in a while because my efforts coming out have pretty much reached a stand still.